In the grand theatre of narcissism, where the leading role is always reserved for the diva or divo themselves, let us take a moment to give a standing ovation to the unsung heroes of this melodrama: the enablers. These are the supporting actors and actresses who, with their unwavering dedication and remarkable ability to turn a blind eye, help the narcissist shine even brighter.
First and foremost, we must recognize the Enabler Extraordinaire, whose steadfast belief in the narcissist’s infallibility rivals that of a cult member. They are the ones who, no matter how outrageous the narcissist’s behaviour, will defend them with a vigour that would make a defence lawyer proud. “Oh, they didn’t mean it like that,” they’ll say, or “You just don’t understand their genius.” Yes, dear enabler, we understand. You are the wind beneath their wings, even if those wings are made of pure ego.
Then there’s the Oblivious Accomplice, who, despite being in the thick of the narcissist’s drama, somehow manages to remain blissfully unaware of it all. They’ll nod and smile as the narcissist spins their tales of glory, completely missing the eye rolls and stifled laughs of those around them. Ah, ignorance is truly bliss, especially when you’re enabling a narcissist.
Let us not forget the Eternal Forgiver, who, no matter how many times the narcissist lets them down, will always find it in their heart to forgive and forget. “They’re going through a tough time,” they’ll say, or “They didn’t mean to hurt me.” It’s a testament to their resilience, really, that they can bounce back from disappointment after disappointment, all in the name of enabling.
Of course, we must also tip our hats to the Enabler by Proxy, who may not even know the narcissist personally but will defend them to the hilt, nonetheless. These are the fans, the followers, the social media warriors who will attack anyone who dares to criticize their idol. They are the foot soldiers in the narcissist’s army, ready to do battle in the comments section of any post that dares to besmirch their leader’s name.
So, here’s to you, dear enablers, for without you, where would the narcissist be? Lost in a sea of self-awareness, perhaps, forced to confront their own flaws and shortcomings. But thanks to you, they can continue to bask in the warm glow of their own magnificence, secure in the knowledge that no matter what they do, someone will always be there to enable them.
